In Loving Memory

Jay D. Carper

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October 9th, 1940 - December 1st, 2017


Thursday, December 7th, 2017   1:00 PM - 2:00 PM

Mt. Washington Cemetery Mausoleum,
614 South Brookside Avenue,
Independence MO 64053


Thursday, December 7th, 2017 at 2:00 PM

Mt. Washington Cemetery Mausoleum,
614 South Brookside Avenue,
Independence MO 64053


Thursday, December 7th, 2017 at 2:45 PM

Mt. Washington Cemetery,
614 Brookside Ave,
Independence MO 64053


Jay D. Carper, 77, passed away peacefully on December 1, 2017 at The Kansas City Hospice House after battling Leukemia. He was born in Oberlin, Kansas on October 9, 1940 to Katheryn (Coley) Carper and Raymond D. Carper, whom both preceded him in death. He moved to Kansas City, Missouri at the age of 10 years where he later met the love of his life Carolyn J. Aue, they were married on September 2, 1958. They had two children, Richard (Rick) and Kimberly (Kim). Carolyn (Jeanie) preceded him in death in 2009.

Jay joined the Kansas City Missouri Fire Department on December 10, 1962 and retired as Captain on December 31, 1994. He rejoined the department as a Fire Inspector on July 29, 1999 until his final retirement on January 5, 2016 with a total of 48 1/2 years of service to the citizens of Kansas City, Missouri. He achieved a degree in Fire Science. He also worked a variety of other jobs usually related to construction, including selling custom cabinetry and he co-owned a drywall business.

He worked hard at two or three jobs but always found time for his family and his hobbies. He shared his love of fishing with his family and was an avid hunter, especially of pheasants.

Jay was also preceded in death by two brothers one year old Verl Gene and three year old Raymond D., his sister Doreen Tweedy and step-brother Jack Smith.

He leaves behind: his oldest sister Estella Harold (widowed) his half-sister Mary Jean Phillips (widowed) and his step-sister Kathy Sue Meschon (widowed). His children: Richard Carper and Kimberly Gunn (widowed). His grandchildren: Nathan Gunn, Natalie Chisam (Lisa) and Jayme Gunn (Mari). His great-grandchildren: Damian, Dakota, Skyler, Stormie and Bryson.

He also leaves behind many other family members (not all defined by bloodline) and a countless number of friends.

In luei of flowers we would like donations to go to The Kansas City, Missouri Fire Department Historical Society the link is


  • Fri, Dec 8th, 2017 at 10:06 AM

    Rick and Kim
    Your father was an amazing person! Just wish I had stayed in contact, with him and your mother over the years. He will be missed.
    Love Cheryl Round

    Cheryl Round, Independence MO

  • Thu, Dec 7th, 2017 at 4:11 PM

    I met Jay through his daughter Kim. He was the sweetest person.
    Always so nice and warm when you ran into him. He will be missed
    by all.

    Eileen Hess, Missouri

  • Wed, Dec 6th, 2017 at 10:42 PM

    Jim and I both loved Jay and Jeanne, we had such good times together when we were young and raising our children. I loved our good times at Beaver Lake, I still think Roger, Roxane and Shannon would say those were some of their best childhood memories. It would take me all day to talk about all the fun thing we did together. Jay will be missed by so many.

    Sally Dewey, KC, MO

  • Tue, Dec 5th, 2017 at 4:56 PM

    Love, love, loved him!!! I think of you all often and wish we were closer!! I'm sending prayers and
    hugs to you and Rick!! I know your Dad loved you both and those grandchildren more than anything!

    Sandy (Harold) Fox, Belfair, WA

  • Tue, Dec 5th, 2017 at 3:13 PM

    Kim and Rick,

    I am so sorry for your loss. I know how close you were with your Dad and I know he will be truly
    missed by all. Jay was one of the kindest, most thoughtful, and most generous men I ever had the
    pleasure of working with. H always made time to help his friends and he loved his family dearly.

    You two are in our thoughts and prayers.


    Chris Bosch, Tracy, Ca.

  • Tue, Dec 5th, 2017 at 3:13 PM

    Thank you Jay for being the leader you always were, you taught us "kids" without even knowing you
    were doing it. Always such a pleasure sitting around the table and listening to the stories you shared.
    Thank you Rick and Kim for sharing your dad with us !!!!

    Randy Mullens, Clinton, MO

  • Tue, Dec 5th, 2017 at 12:30 PM

    Gentle caring man. He will be missed by all who were fortunate to know him.
    My condolences. A real gentleman. RIP.

    Steve Bob Dorth, KCMO

  • Tue, Dec 5th, 2017 at 12:05 PM

    Uncle Jay D was my favorite uncle I'll miss him dearly RIP Uncle Jay D

    Pat Brooks, Kismet, Kansas

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