In Loving Memory

Joan Marie Aguirre

Joan Marie Aguirre

September 14th, 1932 - November 4th, 2019


Friday, November 8th, 2019   9:00 AM - 10:30 AM

Little Sisters of the Poor,
8745 James A. Reed Rd.,
Kansas City MO 64138


Friday, November 8th, 2019 at 11:00 AM

Little Sisters of the Poor,
8745 James A. Reed Rd.,
Kansas City MO 64138


Friday, November 8th, 2019 at 12:15 PM

Mount Olivet Cemetery,
7601 Blue Ridge Blvd,
Kansas City MO


Rosary at 10:30am

Joan Marie Sottile Aguirre was born in 1932 to John Sottile and Leonie Tatum Sottile in Charleston, South Carolina. Joan lived happily with her parents in a multi-generational home, deeply loved by her grandmother, Carmela. Her parents divorced when she was young. She left her birth home with her mother and sisters and lived in Florida, Rhode Island, Arizona and finally, Kansas City. She met the love of her life, Tony Aguirre, at a dance at Redemptorist High School. She was welcomed into a large and loving Mexican family on Kansas City’s West Side. Tony and Joan married in 1950. Their first child, Margaret Theresa (Terry), was born with heart problems and lived only 15 months. They went on to have 5 more children: Sandy, Steve, Arlynne, Kathy and Amy. Joan spent her days providing a loving and supportive home. After moving several times, the family settled in Waldo, where Joan sang in the St. Elizabeth Church Choir, was a den leader and room mother. Over the years, she could often be found on summer evenings in her driveway with the neighbors. They would enjoy conversation, iced tea, and homemade libations (in the days before air conditioning.)

She was an excellent cook, and marrying into a Mexican family, she quickly learned to make great Mexican food and taught all the neighbors to make it as well. The neighborhood children could then enjoy the same wonderful smells in their own homes. When the neighborhood kids discovered the Aguirre children always had fresh baked snacks after school, they suddenly found reasons to invite themselves over for the cookies, cakes and puddings. When the children left home, Joan started a new routine of a weekly baking day, and learned to make homemade bread and cinnamon rolls, which the neighbors then enjoyed. She found joy in baking rather than eating. The house was filled with music, whether from the record player or Joan singing as she did her housework. Her children gained exposure to such great artists and composers through her membership in the Decca Record Club. Favorites were Johnny Mathis, The Four Lads, The Four Aces, Frank Sinatra, Tony Bennett, Andy Williams, Jeannette McDonald and Nelson Eddy. Broadway soundtracks were played: South Pacific, Oklahoma, The Desert Song, and Gigi to name a few. Also, instrumentals by Eddy Duchin, Andre Kostelanetz and Gershwin gave the children an appreciation of fine music. Rhapsody in Blue was an all-time favorite. She even grew to like the Beatles.

The children's lives were guided by the words of wisdom their mom frequently expressed. “It is important to laugh at yourself” and “Never brag on yourself” were two lessons they heard often. Her self-deprecating humor helped her overcome and accept life's difficulties. Her unconditional love and sense of humor were her greatest gifts to her children.

When Joan was in her late 40’s, she was diagnosed with MS, which she handled with great dignity and perseverance. It was not until she was in her 70’s that she began using a wheelchair. Her husband died in 2006 after 55 years of marriage, and Joan went to live at the Little Sisters of the Poor. She resided there until her death, in the warm and loving environment under the care of the nuns. Her family is grateful for the happy times found at this residence for their mother.

Joan was proceeded in death by her mother and father, husband Tony, her infant daughter, Terry, and her sisters, Leonie Oxley and Arlynne Danielsen. She is survived by children, Sandy Aguirre Mayer (Bob), Kansas City; Steve Aguirre (Jeanne),Glendale AZ; Arlynne Reiman (Steve), Mattawan MI; Kathy Balke (Pat), Pierceton IN; and Amy Craig (John), Olathe KS; grandchildren, Nicole Ashley, Alison Mayer Moore, Toni Watt, Stephanie Hutton, Charysse Beugelink, Lindsey Reiman,Whitney Woerner, Ashley Green, David Reiman, Jonathan Reiman, Meghan Reiman, Andrew Balke, Benjamin Balke, Laura Balke, Philip Balke, Peter Balke, Daniel Balke, Lauren Craig, Caitlin Craig, and 21 great-grandchildren.


  • Thu, Nov 7th, 2019 at 8:43 PM

    So sorry about the loss of your mother/mother-in-law/grandmother.
    Sounds like she was an amazing person!
    Praying for the Lord to comfort your hearts in the next days, weeks and months.
    Sincerely, The Monningtons

    Monnington Family, Kansas City, KS

  • Wed, Nov 6th, 2019 at 11:30 PM

    Amy & John, We are saddened to learn of the passing of Amy's
    mom. We are praying for you & all of your family. May the
    loving arms of Jesus surround you with His comfort &
    peace. We love you! Mary & Greg Lehner

    Mary & Greg Lehner, Cedar Rapids, IA

  • Wed, Nov 6th, 2019 at 1:27 AM

    I have a lifetime of memories of Joan, beings I grew up across the street from her. She was
    always like a second mom to me- nurturing me, feeding me, scolding me, encouraging me,
    everything a Mom should do. But the gift I am most thankful for is when Joan had her youngest
    daughter, Amy. I had to wait 11 months for Amy to come along, and to this day, Amy is the
    kindest, most sincere friend I have ever had in my life. And that is a direct reflection of the love
    and guidance of which she grew up in. Of course I have wonderful memories of Sandy (and little
    Nicole) , Steve, Arlynne, and Kathy- always smiling, always happy. But being the babies in our
    families, I think Amy and I had it made :) So much to miss about Joan, but my favorite attribute
    will always be her quick wit. :)
    My heart aches over the loss of Joan, but I take comfort in the thought of the heavenly reunion of
    Joan, Tony, & Terry, and I know my Mom has longed and waited for that heavenly hug from her
    best friend, Joan. I love you all, you are an amazing family.


  • Tue, Nov 5th, 2019 at 11:49 PM

    May your hearts lighten and be glad as your Mother continues her soul journey.

    Susan Castor, Los Angeles, CA

  • Tue, Nov 5th, 2019 at 11:27 PM

    Deepest condolences to all. So sorry for your loss.

    Loretta Broeker, Holdrege, Nebraska

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